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5 Ways To Overcome People Better Than Me Mentality
More often, we find ourselves in a vicious trap of comparing ourselves with others. Instead of focusing on our strengths, we focus on our weaknesses, doubting our abilities, and succumbing to the belief that ‘others are better than us.’ Soon, these spiraling thoughts drain our vitality, leading us down an unknown path that goes nowhere.
So, what can we do about it? Is there any way to outweigh these “people better than me” cycles?
Yes! Just as there is a solution to every problem, similarly there is a solution to break free from the “people better than me” cycle as well. With that said, let’s explore:
5 Ways To Overcome People Better Than Me Mentality
1) Making Comparisons in a Healthy Manner
The only time we lose ourselves is when we start comparing ourselves with others. Despite knowing the incredible potential, we have within us, we “find peace poking into others’ lives.” Ironically speaking! But, why do we humans do that? Is it an inherent tendency or a matter of choice? Why is it so difficult to be just content with yourself or be at peace?
Throughout our human history, we’ve come a long way from where we began. We’ve mastered most things that were just a dream a centuries ago, and it all happened because of our unstoppable urge and relentless curiosity. While these traits have pushed us to expand our limits, they’ve also brought about consequences.
As humans, we’ve divided the earth into territories, established boundaries, systems, and worst of all, we’ve learned the art of creating weapons of destruction—simply by poking, comparing, and using them for our own advantage. So, here, ‘we’ as ‘humans’ have utilized each other’s knowledge to expand our reach to every corner of the world.
But, on the flip side, if we humans weren’t that excited to expand our knowledge, then we might have got trapped into the vicious pattern of comparison, not gaining anything out of it, hindering our growth or wouldn’t have grown this much like we are today. Hence, it is crucial for us to stop comparing ourselves with others, instead learning from others strengths, and using it for our own growth. Envy, after all, won’t lead us anywhere but will stifle our own aspirations in return.
2) Remember No One Gets Out of Here Alive
If you’re quite lost in checking out what others’ doing or why they’re so better that you, then hold on for a second and look at your surroundings, the tress, rivers, mountains, people walking around you, etc and then come back to your consciousness and ask yourself “is that going to matter in the end?”
Think from a wider perspective. Just don’t get consumed by what the world’s offering to you, use your own intellect, and develop an unshakable strength within you, so whenever you encounter such “people better than me” mentality thoughts, you can overcome them instantly.
Have the resilience to bounce back from everything that lowers down your self-esteem and how you usually perceive yourself into the outer world. Remember that, life is short, and nobody’s gonna get out of here alive. So, cherish the present without getting attached to the past and the future. Remember, comparison is the root of all evil. So, isn’t it better to just eliminate it through our lives and live peacefully? Why to just stay stuck in the comparison mechanics, fueling negativity, and boosting others ego?
See, no matter how much you compare yourself with others, ultimately everything and everyone you know going to turn into a dust. The thing that matters to you today, won’t matter in 5 years or 10 years. Though, comparison can be a better thing as long as you are doing it by keeping growth in mind, but if not, then it can become a worst nightmare of your life.
3) Embrace The Power of Self-Awareness
The only person who can downgrade your worth is “YOU” yourself – no one else can. If you think that other people are better than you, then yes, you’re right. Because that’s how you have designed your life, that’s how your choices have been so far.
It’s entirely easy to undermine yourself and focus on others’ lives, but it takes years to be yourself and shape your life. And it can only happen when you are aware of your surroundings when you have the answers to your “what if” doubts, when your self-growth becomes more important than looking into others’ matters, this is when you begin to know your true self.
You can practice meditation to get a deeper understanding of your inner self, exercise regularly to keep yourself fit, ask for constructive feedback, reflect on your emotions, and engage in meaningful and purposeful activities.
4) Still Your Mind For a Moment
It’s ok if someone has achieved their goals sooner than yours. It’s ok, if you’re still struggling with your life while others enjoying their time on vocations. It’s completely alright and there’s nothing wrong with it.
But, if you’re taking it personally or simply getting pissed off by other’s successes, then turn off your brain and be silent for a moment and sense how you’re feeling at the moment. Are you angry, sad, or anxious? What kind of feeling is that? Simply ask yourself while keeping your mind still, and you’ll find your answers.
For practice, try this: Close your eyes, be present, and don’t move. Now, what do you see? Darkness, right? That’s how daunting life’s truth can seem.
We are all gonna end up on the same boat, travelling miles away as spirits to get lost somewhere far in the universe. Though, despite knowing how dark life is beyond death, still we try to stifle our lives by comparing with others successes, wealth and happiness. Therefore, choosing to be happy in the moment without attaching ourselves to anything is the key for the long-lasting happiness.
5) Keep Pushing Yourself
Every one of us has got the same amount of time on this planet. Few of us take charge of our own lives, few just float around without any reason and become the person they never wished to be. On the other hand, an individual who knows the true meaning of life, works hard every day to reach their full potential, wishing good for others, imbibing positive habits, learning new skills, and living on their terms.
3 Habits of Highly Successful People
1) They Love Themselves
Everything that begins has an end, much like life itself, which will eventually reach its end one day. People who truly love themselves are determined to achieve their goals and never lose sight of them, regardless of the challenges that come their way.
2) They are Lifelong Learners
Unlike those who blame others of their problems and never take a leap of faith, the highly successful ones keep on exerting themselves to the next level. They have a much clear focus, resilience, emotional intelligence and an unbreakable attitude to make their dreams come true. They have an inner motivation, a conscience that keeps on pushing them to the higher level.
3) They Embrace Present
The most common habit of unsuccessful people is that they remain stuck in the past. Despite knowing nothing grows there, they fear to unhold the reins of their gone feelings and emotions, and as a result they lose their sight from their path. On the other hand, the people who embrace present, they have a clear set path and never bog down with life challenges, instead they emerge as a stronger individual who knows how to make lemonade when the life has only to offer lemons.
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Power Of Observation – Turn Your Vision Into Reality
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Listen! Your time is passing. I am not sure on what profession you are but if you observe your whole day to day…life…you will see…your days are passing so quickly, that your subconscious mind can’t even realize. A day before you were thinking of accomplishing big goals and with a blink of an eye, your next day starts and you realize you are in the same place where you started.
You are imagining yourself living your dream life, then out of a sudden your eyes open and you realize you are in a locked room with darkness all around and there’s no way out. Then at your job you meet people who you don’t even know. They take precious time of your life, they use your emotions, and eventually leave you in some corner with dying dreams and emotions.
You don’t even realize when you become a cog in the wheel. You’ve been dying in that pit for years and how hilarious it is you…you know that! And still you are not taking any action. Why are you not taking any action? What about your dreams? Tony robins once said…”if you’re in your ahead…you are fucking dead”. It is the only life you have my friend…live it as if it is your last day on earth.
Fuck people! They are not gonna bury your dying self…they will be just watching…while your tears rolling down your face….that how close you were to your dream…but you couldn’t touch it because you were so afraid of other’s opinions and losing your past self.
Did you even try to hear the voice of your future self?
Your new self kept on banging your door but you didn’t open the door. This regret will haunt you forever my friend. No matter how weak you are…how lost you are…find a light of hope within you…take massive action…use your divine voice….because this earth itself is gonna be destroyed one day…so you’re just a human…with so much buried emotions and aspirations. Give yourself a chance.
Believe me nobody gives a shit about you, they’re all lost in the deep oceans of their crippling thoughts…….living someone else’s life. Your whole world is dying inside you….feed it with power…feed it with hope…feed it with undying uplifting emotions…and never giving up attitude.
You’re already naked walking on the road…so use the time you have on this planet…leave everyone that stop you from reaching where you want to go…live in imaginations…it does become reality…don’t believe in someone’s lie…they’re showing their true nature…….but if you remain honest with yourself, the whole cosmos will turn the whole world in your favor, and will give your life a pragmatism touch with unstoppable abundance.
This is what happens when you begin to embrace the power of observation.
1) You no longer be you
When you observe the whole essence of you, then you no longer remain the same. You begin to make a major shift in your life. Your word of choice doesn’t remain the same. You begin to act differently. Your life choices, standards, and perspective don’t remain the same. Your own identity, who you used to think what it was, completely becomes a different identity. You begin to make a distance from the places that can trigger your past self-limiting beliefs. You start to approach your life like a newborn child who looks at the world from an entirely different perspective.
Wayne Dyer once said, “change the way you look at things, and things you look at change” He was right with his inspiring words. If you won’t change the way you look at the world…the way you’ve been seeing it for years, then you will remain the same you…who will never forgive you for your sins. But, if you take a leap of faith, and become a beacon of hope for your future self, then he or she will salute you when you will be taking the last breaths of your life.
2) You become mindful of your intrusive thoughts
The moment a negative thought comes into your mind (Negative thoughts…such as…. for ex: you remember past events where people used to downgrade your self-worth, they judged you for no reason, said inappropriate words to destroy your self-esteem…how they made you feel as you of no worth…how they made you feel inferior and insecure in your own skin…their voice still hurt you…their face keep on restricting you from unleashing what you are in the essence of your core).
So, the moment a negative thought comes into your mind……………..instantly shift that negative thought to the core essence of who you want to be…let your higher intelligence intertwine with your future self….let your divine self… be your guiding light to welcome unlimited positivity in your life.
3) You begin to trust yourself
When you observe your inner self, and how it is reacting in different situations, then you begin to exclude external validation from your inner reality. You start to trust your instincts and the guiding force to illuminate your path. You stop seeking approval from others of how you should feel, and how you should live your life. You begin to understand that your instincts and your conscience aren’t your enemy, they’re your best path illuminators.
You look at each failure as an opportunity to remake your current self. It is just like believing in yourself when no one’s willing to. So, never be afraid to trust your inner guidance, it is the only supporter you may ever get in your life.
4) You stop limiting yourself
One of the biggest truths of our lives is that our time here…..on earth is limited. And we’ve already spent half of our lives in overthinking, comparisons, what if fears and what not? Somewhere deep down we know something is missing……something that needs to come out….otherwise it will burn us from inside. It is kind of a calling…that we are not probably ready for yet…because it asks something bigger than our current self. Most of us are puzzled in our day to day lives. Some running to feed their kids, some running for jobs, and some dying due to inferiority complex issues that they’re not adequate enough.
You get stuck in an inescapable loop
This is a cycle that keeps on repeating again and again. Because the creator left us all alone after throwing us on this blue planet. He didn’t even care to look back once before leaving us all alone. He gave us knowledge about life…but not about death!!! What happens after death? Who cares!!! I know. Let’s watch some reels on FB or YT, then go back to sleep. Easy going life…right?
But, what if you don’t want this kind of life? You don’t want to die like a mediocre? Don’t you want $100,000 in your bank account? Can you make it possible in a year? Do you have that kind of potential? What will you do if you genuinely want that much amount of money? It scares the shit out of us…when we think about this much money. Isn’t it? Because, we haven’t thought like this ever before. Because…it seems impossible. And the reason that it seems impossible lies in our lower thinking attitude.
We aren’t willing to think big…we have made ourselves believe…that you deserve less…because you just can’t get that MUCH BIG AMOUNT…common!!.look at yourself in the mirror…you look so funny…( Negative inner voice ).
But if you look at life from a different angle, when you embrace the power of observation, you’ll realize that everything within others’ reach is within your reach too. It is just a matter of how you look at life…your perceptions, beliefs, values and beyond that. Jack Canfield, America’s number 1 life coach and motivational speaker used law of attraction to manifest his first $100000 in a year. So, in order to make a major shift in your life, you have to change everything that is stopping you from achieving what you desperately want to achieve.
You are the only one who is stopping yourself…let me repeat……..you are the only one who is stopping yourself….no one else.
You know what you need to do to get to that level…whether it is touching a $100,000 mark or getting a better life. You know what resources you need, who you have to connect with, what you have to become to get to that level, what circle you may need to fulfill your inner wishes and beyond that. You know ….everything!! Don’t you? It all takes that single step forward…that first step…towards the unknown…and it is the hardest one..!!!
Last but not the least…this earth is gonna end one day..…..so living a lavish lifestyle……is better than to remain mediocre…..so make effort…see…how far you can go………..at least you will land somewhere better than…where you are today!!!
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How To Build Confidence As An Adult?
When we reach to the age of adulthood, there are lot of questions that ignites the fire of curiosity within us. The one question that keep on knocking our subconscious window is “What the heck am I doing here on the blue orb”, “Who the F…ck am I”, and “Why I’m doing what I’m doing”, and beyond that. These are just small particles of our endless curiosity, covered with a little drop of our higher consciousness, and what we are desperately trying to unravel.
When you become an adult, you leave a timid part of yourself who used to be afraid of himself, people walking around or simply watching someone singing on the stage. That’s a fear of your previous version, “your past self”. But, as you move on to your adult age, you begin to comprehend your existence, what ignites the unshakable confidence within you and what motivates you to keep going despite what life throws at you.
You begin to realize that your life matters and even people’s opinion no longer matter either. It has also been seen that at the age of 34 to 35, most adults become mature and begin to make a balance in between the pragmatic and imaginative world. And that’s where they begin to generate the higher level of confidence, because they become aware of who they are, and why they’re not supposed to be worried of what others think about them, why compassion is better than yelling at someone, why comparison with others is dangerous and what not?
How To Build An Unshakable Confidence As An Adult?
1) Be Vulnerable To The World
When you show your weaknesses to the world you get one step closer to your future self. It is always the first step that is the hardest, because it leads you to show your vulnerability and what you most afraid of. Showing your true self requires courage, and courage comes when you allow yourself to be exposed to others, despite the risks of being hurt or judged. Courage comes when you disapprove other’s domination and live your life on your own terms. So, never shy away from showing your vulnerable side, as it will help you become stronger and wiser as your life goes on.
2) Ignite Your Passion
In order to give this life a meaning you must know how your inner self works and what makes it feel alive and fulfilled. 9 to 5 job can give you pay check to pay check life, but it can’t amplify your freedom but will restrict it in return. So, better find a way to make a balance in between what you love and what is required for survival. Don’t just remain stuck in the pit or working for someone else, just give your heart a chance. Make a routine where you can do things that excite you, inspires you, and gives your life a meaning to live this life one more day. Your voice is one of the most magical things you can count on, so stop burying it underground. Give it wings, and you’ll see how it increases your confidence in no time.
3) Make A Blueprint Of Where You Are And Where You Want To Go
If you genuinely want to change your life, then your path won’t be easier. It all depends on what path you’ve chosen, and what it will take to become reality. If you want to become an actor, then you won’t become it overnight. It requires deep self-introspection about your motivation, your subconscious desires, who you are as a person right now, and beyond that. Same applies to other professions as well.
So, in the end it is up to you how serious, relentless, determined and focused you are for your pursuits. Like we count numbers 1, 2, 3, similarly your path has numbers too, you can’t reach your destination from point A to point Z. You have to step on each alphabet to reach to point Z. Same works with life. You must understand the step-by-step process to make a wish into a reality. Do remember that dreams do happen, but all it takes the guts to make it real.
How can we forget about the “Walt Disney” manifestation? He was one of those people who gave his imagination wings, and brought imaginative characters into the world such as Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck.
Other most inspiring person is the “Eminem“. He is one of the greatest rappers in the world right now. His journey wasn’t that great. He lived in poverty during childhood days, and had allegations of abuse. He began his carrier when he was just 14 years old, and established himself as a leading Detroit’s battle rap scene at different clubs. There used to happen open mic contests where he would rap on Saturdays. He also ended up getting into drug addiction, but he got out of it with rehab services. After that he didn’t stop himself, and won dozens of awards for best rap album “The Slim Shady LP”, “8 Mile” and more. Apart from that, he has won 155 Grammy awards and has made a name in the rap industry. There are other numerous examples that inspires us, and make us push our limits, and make impossible possible.
4) You Have Less Time On Earth
You’ve got limited time on this planet like any other human being. So, stop staying stuck in your head. Tony Robins once said “if you’re in your head, you’re fuck..ing dead”. And there’s a lot of truth in it. Most people live their whole life in a hope that their day will come despite knowing there isn’t any action involved in it. How hilarious it is! They know what they need to do, but they resist and allow their emotions cloud their judgement. They can go beyond their limit, but they prefer to stick around to the same routine until they get fed up of it and run for a freedom.
What you are afraid of? Are you afraid of people’s eyes, their opinions, their rich lifestyle or you’re broke and got nothing to take pride of? Ask yourself, do you really need some random individual advice to live your life? That other individual is counting his own life years like these galaxies, moons, planets, stars and what not. You’re afraid only, because you simply don’t know “Who You Are”. It is that simple!
The day you become aware of the power that resides within you, you no longer need other’s approval of how you should live your life, how big your dreams should be, and what you should wear, etc, etc. Your confidence lies in your unawareness of who you are. Watch yourself every day, talk to yourself, make journals, read self-development books, watch podcasts, follow people that inspires you, focus on your fitness and there are numerous things that you must do to keep yourself alive and fulfilled. It is just like…igniting the light within the dark eternity and coming out of it confidently without breaking.
Final Note!
Building confidence isn’t a god gifted trait, it is a learnable skill. You can become confident by knowing how you operate while being alone and while in the public. When you begin to explore the deepest part of your inner corners, you will realize you have amazing traits in you that you never knew you had. It all begins with a single step of knowing what is unknown to you, and gradually everything comes into play to get you there where you’re destined to be.
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How To Change Your Life For The Better
Asking a question “How to change your life for the better”, may sound like an easy task, as there isn’t any action involved in it—just drop some lines and get back to daily life again. That’s how most of our lives have become now days. People prefer to speak rather than taking action.
So, asking questions is pretty easy than finding the answers of it. Because, solving a major life problem isn’t an overnight task, it takes lifelong commitment and unshakable resilience to come to the right solution. So, if you’re willing to change your life, then be prepared for making changes in your current lifestyle, your beliefs, your way of thinking and more.
7 Ways To Change Your Life For The better
If you genuinely want to change your life…then read these points carefully…….
1) First….. Don’t give a shit – Be like Tom
Understand that other people’s opinions are just – opinions, not facts or truths. They look at the world from their own perspective, shaped by their experiences, beliefs, biases and values. So, when people judge you. They don’t define you. They define themselves. So, instead of allowing others to affect your life in some way or other – just don’t give a shit and move on. Keep in mind, you don’t need everyone’s approval to find happiness. It is your life and you know better what’s good for you.
2) Set Yourself Free, and Don’t Be Afraid To Be Alone.
Being alone is the greatest gift you can have in your lifetime. It doesn’t mean that…you’re lonely or you have no one to talk to. It just means that… you’re strong enough to enjoy your own company. You’re strong enough to…follow your heart…your life’s purpose and what you truly want in your life. People are gonna come and go, but the regret remains…for a lifetime.
So, instead of running from your solitude…….just embrace it…because that is the secret of invention, that is where ideas are born (Nikola Tesla). Remember that, those who walk alone have the clearest direction, and those who fly solo have the strongest wings. There is no pride in waiting for the right moment. If you know that you’re stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people, then give yourself a favour, move on. Because growth only comes when you’re no longer attached to something or someone. When you no longer need other’s approval of how you should design your life.
When you no longer feel restricted and suffocated in between the group of people who don’t see any value in you. When you find the freedom within yourself. When you walk alone in your own chosen direction…that’s when you unlock the gifts of life and become a complete version of yourself.
3) Enjoy The Moment, Enjoy The Journey. It Will Make Sense After a While
Life is a precious gift that most people fail to unwrap. They get attached to people’s emotions, feelings and comparison cycles. Instead of appreciating the gifts of life, they focus on other’s successes, and fail miserably in the long run. But people who don’t seek approval from others of how they’re supposed to live their lives, they actually give respect to themselves. They understand that life’s true purpose doesn’t lie in the destination, but in the journey itself
4) Feed Your Brain With Good Information, Faith and Love
This is a story of two wolves. A grandfather speaks to his grandson, saying, “Within us, there are two wolves constantly at war. One is a good wolf embodying kindness, bravery, and love. The other is a bad wolf, symbolizing greed, hatred, and fear.”
The grandson pauses, pondering this, then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf wins?”
The grandfather softly answers, “The one you feed.
Keep in mind that your mind will always believe whatever you tell it. So, feed it hope. Feed it truth. And feed it with love.
5) Take Risks, If You Still Can
At one point in our lives, we realize that nobody is coming to save us. Nobody is coming to take responsibility of our lives. Nobody is going to help us with our life problems. You realize that govt, bollywood celebrities, medias, and social media channels…they are all feeding you ignorance to forget your life’s purpose. To forget what you can or could have become. Your life will remain unchanged until you satisfy your inner soul with hunger for life. Remember that…there is no glory in waiting for the right moment…the true glory is walking in the dark shadows and claiming everything that had always been yours. So, take risks whenever you can…because time waits for no one.
6) Harmony With Mind and Heart
“The most powerful creative state to bring your desires into reality is by bringing the conscious and subconscious into unison, then keeping your heart and mind in perfect sync.”― Steven Redhead
Your desires will remain a desire until you have a harmony in between your heart and mind. Your heart may wish to become an actor or singer, but your mind instantly gives you a reality check of why it is not possible at the moment. So, it won’t be possible to fulfill your materialistic or soulful need until you make a balance in between the both. if you’re aiming for the big, then your heart and mind must sync perfectly, so you will have ample resources to fullfill your soulful needs while remain awake in the physical world.
7) Less Consumption Of Social Media
Excess of everything is bad, so is the excessive use of social media. Spending hours watching social media content is just like feeding poison to yourself. The elites have already succeeded in injecting the quick gratification serum into your body, and you’re consuming it every day without being aware of it. So better wake up right now and focus on the good. Create an unbreakable routine that ensures you stay true to your values and life purpose, regardless of the circumstances.
The list can go on and on.
One personal advice Just don’t give up, if you fail, stand up…….. fight again…. fail again, fail better.
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