When we reach to the age of adulthood, there are lot of questions that ignites the fire of curiosity within us. The one question that keep on knocking our subconscious window is “What the heck am I doing here on the blue orb”, “Who the F…ck am I”, and “Why I’m doing what I’m doing”, and beyond that. These are just small particles of our endless curiosity, covered with a little drop of our higher consciousness, and what we are desperately trying to unravel.

When you become an adult, you leave a timid part of yourself who used to be afraid of himself, people walking around or simply watching someone singing on the stage. That’s a fear of your previous version, “your past self”. But, as you move on to your adult age, you begin to comprehend your existence, what ignites the unshakable confidence within you and what motivates you to keep going despite what life throws at you.

You begin to realize that your life matters and even people’s opinion no longer matter either. It has also been seen that at the age of 34 to 35, most adults become mature and begin to make a balance in between the pragmatic and imaginative world. And that’s where they begin to generate the higher level of confidence, because they become aware of who they are, and why they’re not supposed to be worried of what others think about them, why compassion is better than yelling at someone, why comparison with others is dangerous and what not?

How To Build An Unshakable Confidence As An Adult?

1) Be Vulnerable To The World

When you show your weaknesses to the world you get one step closer to your future self. It is always the first step that is the hardest, because it leads you to show your vulnerability and what you most afraid of. Showing your true self requires courage, and courage comes when you allow yourself to be exposed to others, despite the risks of being hurt or judged. Courage comes when you disapprove other’s domination and live your life on your own terms. So, never shy away from showing your vulnerable side, as it will help you become stronger and wiser as your life goes on.

2) Ignite Your Passion

In order to give this life a meaning you must know how your inner self works and what makes it feel alive and fulfilled. 9 to 5 job can give you pay check to pay check life, but it can’t amplify your freedom but will restrict it in return. So, better find a way to make a balance in between what you love and what is required for survival. Don’t just remain stuck in the pit or working for someone else, just give your heart a chance. Make a routine where you can do things that excite you, inspires you, and gives your life a meaning to live this life one more day. Your voice is one of the most magical things you can count on, so stop burying it underground. Give it wings, and you’ll see how it increases your confidence in no time.

3) Make A Blueprint Of Where You Are And Where You Want To Go

If you genuinely want to change your life, then your path won’t be easier. It all depends on what path you’ve chosen, and what it will take to become reality. If you want to become an actor, then you won’t become it overnight. It requires deep self-introspection about your motivation, your subconscious desires, who you are as a person right now, and beyond that. Same applies to other professions as well.

So, in the end it is up to you how serious, relentless, determined and focused you are for your pursuits. Like we count numbers 1, 2, 3, similarly your path has numbers too, you can’t reach your destination from point A to point Z. You have to step on each alphabet to reach to point Z. Same works with life. You must understand the step-by-step process to make a wish into a reality. Do remember that dreams do happen, but all it takes the guts to make it real.

How can we forget about the “Walt Disney” manifestation? He was one of those people who gave his imagination wings, and brought imaginative characters into the world such as Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck.

Other most inspiring person is the “Eminem“. He is one of the greatest rappers in the world right now. His journey wasn’t that great. He lived in poverty during childhood days, and had allegations of abuse. He began his carrier when he was just 14 years old, and established himself as a leading Detroit’s battle rap scene at different clubs. There used to happen open mic contests where he would rap on Saturdays. He also ended up getting into drug addiction, but he got out of it with rehab services. After that he didn’t stop himself, and won dozens of awards for best rap album “The Slim Shady LP”, “8 Mile” and more. Apart from that, he has won 155 Grammy awards and has made a name in the rap industry. There are other numerous examples that inspires us, and make us push our limits, and make impossible possible.

4) You Have Less Time On Earth

You’ve got limited time on this planet like any other human being. So, stop staying stuck in your head. Tony Robins once said “if you’re in your head,  you’re fuck..ing dead”. And there’s a lot of truth in it. Most people live their whole life in a hope that their day will come despite knowing there isn’t any action involved in it. How hilarious it is! They know what they need to do, but they resist and allow their emotions cloud their judgement. They can go beyond their limit, but they prefer to stick around to the same routine until they get fed up of it and run for a freedom.

What you are afraid of? Are you afraid of people’s eyes, their opinions, their rich lifestyle or you’re broke and got nothing to take pride of? Ask yourself, do you really need some random individual advice to live your life? That other individual is counting his own life years like these galaxies, moons, planets, stars and what not. You’re afraid only, because you simply don’t know “Who You Are”. It is that simple!

The day you become aware of the power that resides within you, you no longer need other’s approval of how you should live your life, how big your dreams should be, and what you should wear, etc, etc. Your confidence lies in your unawareness of who you are. Watch yourself every day, talk to yourself, make journals, read self-development books, watch podcasts, follow people that inspires you, focus on your fitness and there are numerous things that you must do to keep yourself alive and fulfilled. It is just like…igniting the light within the dark eternity and coming out of it confidently without breaking.

Final Note!

Building confidence isn’t a god gifted trait, it is a learnable skill. You can become confident by knowing how you operate while being alone and while in the public. When you begin to explore the deepest part of your inner corners, you will realize you have amazing traits in you that you never knew you had. It all begins with a single step of knowing what is unknown to you, and gradually everything comes into play to get you there where you’re destined to be.

Asking a question “How to change your life for the better”, may sound like an easy task, as there isn’t any action involved in it—just drop some lines and get back to daily life again. That’s how most of our lives have become now days. People prefer to speak rather than taking action.

So, asking questions is pretty easy than finding the answers of it. Because, solving a major life problem isn’t an overnight task, it takes lifelong commitment and unshakable resilience to come to the right solution. So, if you’re willing to change your life, then be prepared for making changes in your current lifestyle, your beliefs, your way of thinking and more.

7 Ways To Change Your Life For The better

If you genuinely want to change your life…then read these points carefully…….

1) First….. Don’t give a shit – Be like Tom

Understand that other people’s opinions are just – opinions, not facts or truths. They look at the world from their own perspective, shaped by their experiences, beliefs, biases and values. So, when people judge you. They don’t define you. They define themselves. So, instead of allowing others to affect your life in some way or other – just don’t give a shit and move on. Keep in mind, you don’t need everyone’s approval to find happiness. It is your life and you know better what’s good for you.

2) Set Yourself Free, and Don’t Be Afraid To Be Alone.

Being alone is the greatest gift you can have in your lifetime. It doesn’t mean that…you’re lonely or you have no one to talk to. It just means that… you’re strong enough to enjoy your own company. You’re strong enough to…follow your heart…your life’s purpose and what you truly want in your life. People are gonna come and go, but the regret remains…for a lifetime.

So, instead of running from your solitude…….just embrace it…because that is the secret of invention, that is where ideas are born (Nikola Tesla). Remember that, those who walk alone have the clearest direction, and those who fly solo have the strongest wings. There is no pride in waiting for the right moment. If you know that you’re stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people, then give yourself a favour, move on. Because growth only comes when you’re no longer attached to something or someone. When you no longer need other’s approval of how you should design your life.

When you no longer feel restricted and suffocated in between the group of people who don’t see any value in you. When you find the freedom within yourself. When you walk alone in your own chosen direction…that’s when you unlock the gifts of life and become a complete version of yourself.

3) Enjoy The Moment, Enjoy The Journey. It Will Make Sense After a While

Life is a precious gift that most people fail to unwrap. They get attached to people’s emotions, feelings and comparison cycles. Instead of appreciating the gifts of life, they focus on other’s successes, and fail miserably in the long run. But people who don’t seek approval from others of how they’re supposed to live their lives, they actually give respect to themselves. They understand that life’s true purpose doesn’t lie in the destination, but in the journey itself

4) Feed Your Brain With Good Information, Faith and Love

This is a story of two wolves. A grandfather speaks to his grandson, saying, “Within us, there are two wolves constantly at war. One is a good wolf embodying kindness, bravery, and love. The other is a bad wolf, symbolizing greed, hatred, and fear.”

The grandson pauses, pondering this, then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf wins?”

The grandfather softly answers, “The one you feed.

Keep in mind that your mind will always believe whatever you tell it. So, feed it hope. Feed it truth. And feed it with love.

5) Take Risks, If You Still Can

At one point in our lives, we realize that nobody is coming to save us. Nobody is coming to take responsibility of our lives. Nobody is going to help us with our life problems. You realize that govt, bollywood celebrities, medias, and social media channels…they are all feeding you ignorance to forget your life’s purpose. To forget what you can or could have become. Your life will remain unchanged until you satisfy your inner soul with hunger for life. Remember that…there is no glory in waiting for the right moment…the true glory is walking in the dark shadows and claiming everything that had always been yours. So, take risks whenever you can…because time waits for no one.

6) Harmony With Mind and Heart

“The most powerful creative state to bring your desires into reality is by bringing the conscious and subconscious into unison, then keeping your heart and mind in perfect sync.”― Steven Redhead

Your desires will remain a desire until you have a harmony in between your heart and mind. Your heart may wish to become an actor or singer, but your mind instantly gives you a reality check of why it is not possible at the moment. So, it won’t be possible to fulfill your materialistic or soulful need until you make a balance in between the both. if you’re aiming for the big, then your heart and mind must sync perfectly, so you will have ample resources to fullfill your soulful needs while remain awake in the physical world.

7) Less Consumption Of Social Media

Excess of everything is bad, so is the excessive use of social media. Spending hours watching social media content is just like feeding poison to yourself. The elites have already succeeded in injecting the quick gratification serum into your body, and you’re consuming it every day without being aware of it. So better wake up right now and focus on the good. Create an unbreakable routine that ensures you stay true to your values and life purpose, regardless of the circumstances.

The list can go on and on.

One personal advice Just don’t give up, if you fail, stand up…….. fight again…. fail again, fail better.

Figuring out what you want in life isn’t like doing something one day and forgetting about it the next. It’s a journey spanning months, years, or even decades to find what perfectly aligns with your subconscious desires or inner self. It is something that challenges you everyday, pushes your limits and changes your life in and out. And guess what, finding that thing is hell of a ride. Because when we don’t know what we want, it is easy to get trapped in a never ending maze of life – leading us to an unknown path that goes nowhere. And overtime this leads to anxiety, stress and depression – making us feel lost and aggravated.

Knowing what you genuinely want in your life is crucial as it gives you a sense of purpose, freedom, and a never ending urge to become better than before. Here are some incredible ways to find what you want in life and who you want to be.

6 Ways To Figure Out What You Want In Life

1) Practice Self-Reflection 

In order to identify what you truly want in your life is to first understand how your inner self works. Because your inner self is a reflection of your desires, dreams, and whatever you want to manifest into the outer world. Even in recent study, it is stated that self-reflection plays a significant role in forming the self-concept. And that self-concept forms when you understand yourself in and out, your goals, dreams, and your life’s purpose. 

There is a saying, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” When you know yourself deeply, you become better at taking life’s decisions, stay calm when life tests your limits, and remain resilient in the face of adversity.

2) Explore Different Options

Another possible way to find your passion or life’s purpose is by exploring and experimenting with different options. Sometimes at the early stages of our lives it becomes nearly impossible to find the right career or profession for us. However, as the time goes by—when we explore all possible options—eventually all our learnings and experiences perfectly synchronize with what we truly want in our lives, and help us live a fulfilled and prosperous life.

For instance: You’re working in some xyz organization, and spending 8 to 9 hours everyday in the office, and following the same pattern everyday. However, one day you realize that this is not what inspires you or motivates you from the core of your heart. 

So, you start focussing on other things apart from your daily tasks. You joined singing classes, dance classes, started your own YouTube channel and explored every possible venture to understand what truly satisfies your inner child.

With the above example we can understand that finding what you want in your life isn’t a straight line concept—it is a spiral one, which means you’ve to go through different doors in order to find the right one that actually satisfies your inner soul and the hunger for life.

3) Take Action – Time Waits For No One

Comfort is a drug that you give to yourself to forget your purpose, your dreams, and what you genuinely crave out of your life. Sitting still where you don’t belong may give you temporary gratification for a while, but will steal every ounce of happiness in the long run, and put you in a labyrinth with no escape. Though, when you choose action over stagnation, you begin to see more possibilities for growth than limitations.

Remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, but in order to reach that tunnel you’ve to overcome your procrastination habit, embrace new opportunities and take action on a daily basis—no matter how small. The key to abundant and prosperous life doesn’t lie in waiting for the right moment, it is living in the here and now.

4) Listen To Your Intuition

No one can understand you better than you yourself. If you find yourself trapped in a constant loop of negativity, overwhelmed by fears, self-doubt, mood swings, and uncontrollable emotions, then instead of seeking answers outside of yourself—look within. Because, nothing can manifest externally without the consent of your inner self. If you believe you’re weak, then indeed, you are; if you believe you’re strong, then yes, you are. 

Remember, you are the one who is in control of your life, not others. When you trust your intuition or simply surrender to your higher self, you form a direct connection with the universe that understands your feelings, emotions, aspirations, and what you truly want out of your life. It uplifts you by shifting your focus from “I can’t do it” to “Yes, I can”, from “I am weak” to “I am strong”, and beyond. Remember, the universe never gives you something you can’t handle, so trust the process, and believe that everything happens for a reason.

5) Visualize What You Want To Manifest

Visualising is a great technique to turn your thoughts into action. Even famous actors like Will Smith, Muhammad Ali, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jim Carey and Denzel Washington and many more use the power of visualization daily to fulfill their dreams. So, If you don’t want to stay stuck where you’re right now, then embrace visualization in your life. It is a source to your inner fulfillment with a little pinch of consistency and action. 

6) Seek Inspiration

If you see someone who is doing great in their life, then seek inspiration from them. Learn about their biographies, interests, passions, goals, and dreams, whatever it is that excites them and keeps their enthusiasm alive. 

Observe their walking style, way of talking, behaviour, books they read, food they eat, places they visit, and more. Just be mindful not to become a complete imitation of them; instead, select what resonates with you to shape your own identity and future.

Remember, when you’re aiming for a long shot or dreaming big, your starting frequencyᅳwhat you want to achieve or becomeᅳmust align with your end frequencyᅳwhere you want to be or who you want to become. 

If you have an idol like Jim Carrey, Shah Rukh Khan, Michael Jordan, Oprah Winfrey and want to be like them, then you know from within what you’re talking about and what price you’ve to pay to get to that level. 

Listen, it’s great to imagine and keep on daydreaming about doing great things in life, but the reality is a whole lot different than what you imagine or dream of. It is a path with no guarantee of success, and failures will curse your existence every step of the way. But if you’re determined to uncover the true essence of your life and willing to do everything to change your life’s circumstances —unfettered by the opinions of others—then the day is not far when you will be there where you want to be. But do remember, nothing comes free; you have got to pay the price for it.

Every individual you know as a great person has paid the price to reach that level.

1. Michael Jordan, a renowned basketball player missed more than 9000 shots in his career, lost almost more than 300 games, and tasted back-to-back failures but ultimately succeeded.

2. Another individual who is known for his brilliant comedy is Jim Carry. He has shown people that no matter what happens in your life, you should always aim high and stay resilient in the face of challenges. A long back before getting into the acting field, he discovered that he had dyslexia, which made him unable to read letters, interpret words, symbols, etc. He also had to go through a phase of anxiety and depression and live in a van for the first few months in Toronto before beginning his journey as a stand-up comedian. Despite going through numerous hurdles, he remained strong and grounded and never gave up on his dreams.

With this we can understand that whatever you wish for or want to achieve in your life, you’ve to have the mindset like that with unwavering focus and unshakable belief in yourself.